The divorce process can be a very consuming and overwhelming one that you most likely are not prepared for, unless you have gone through one previously. It might be helpful to manage your expectations. Here are a few notes that might help you to do so.
The Court System
The court system is a weird one and often moves in strange ways. You will find yourself bearing witness to the realities, slow-pace, and complexities of a real courtroom. You might be unfamiliar with the procedures and paperwork you will encounter. A skilled professional in family law can help walk you through the process, but don’t expect to be an expert.
Support Through Your Divorce
The support you receive from friends and family might not be the support you need. Often friends will come to your aid and take your side because they are your friends. But often times this one sided view fails to help you see the big picture – something that might help you get to the other side of the divorce. Friends often fuel the fire, rather than help with the moving on process. Rather than turning to your standard support team you might want to seek the help of a divorce professional or coach.
Change with Divorce
Change is bound to happen, with your social network, your standard of living, and your daily routines. You will need to create a new way of life that is separate from your ex-spouse. If there are children involved you will need to forge a new way of life with them. You will also need to find a way to support and help your children with the new feelings they will most likely be feeling. Children often struggle with finding their place in the new arrangement that occurs after a divorce, so you will need to be sensitive to that. Lastly, this is not the time to beat up on yourself for mistakes you have made. Rather, take this time as an opportunity to learn and grow so that you emerge from this divorce better and stronger than before.
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